![]() These are the two winds that allow a leader to soar.” “ Gifted leadership occurs when heart and head–feeling and thought–meet. As we develop congruency between our heart and head, we experience “gifted leadership.” Daniel Goleman (Emotional Intelligence) says: We can begin achieving congruency between our heart and head by aligning our behaviors to our Natural State. but when He entered a temple and saw the moneychangers, His adaptive style kicked into high gear (Matthew 21:12-13, NIV). Jesus exhibits qualities consistent with His natural state – love, compassion, honesty, etc. Psychology refers to this tension as “cognitive dissonance.” Cognitive dissonance is the discomfort a person feels when their behavior does not align with their values or beliefs. We can operate in our Adaptive state for a period of time but will begin to experience tension and stress when we surpass our capacity. We would become more directive and action-oriented to ensure the safety of our family. Consider this example, at home we mostly operate in our Natural State, secure, laid back and chilled but if a fire were to break out, our adaptive style would kick us into survival mode. I learned that we all have a “Natural State” and an “Adaptive State” which represent the behavioral tendencies we select depending on our situation and environment. How do you know if there is congruence between your heart and your head? I found a great answer when I participated in the Biblical DISC® certification workshop, offered by Lead Like Jesus. It’s such an important step in goal achievement and if we miss it, we can end up travelling a long way down the wrong path!” “ A key ingredient to achieving your goals is to make sure your goals are totally congruent with who you are as a person. Australian author and mentor, Rachael Bermingham describes the importance of congruence this way: If we aspire to lead like Jesus, we must develop the level of consistency and congruence that He demonstrated (Hebrews 13:8). Only through the bringing together of head and heart-intelligence and goodness-shall man rise to a fulfillment of his true nature.” “One day we will learn that the heart can never be totally right if the head is totally wrong. Our heart and head are interconnected and exist within a symbiotic relationship. Proverbs 4:23 (NIV) cautions us to “above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” However, Proverbs 4:23 (ESV) tells us “above all, be careful what you think because your thoughts control your life.” The same verse, in different translations of the Bible, appear to provide different perspective and focus. ![]() It’s possible to have ‘head knowledge’ of God and His Word without its filtering down into ‘heart knowledge’.”īut even the Bible can contribute to our confusion. Sometimes it is hard to get the message from our heads to our hearts. The heart represents our affection, emotion, and personality. The Bible speaks of the brain as the center of our thinking and has much to say about the condition of our minds. “But the relationship between head and heart isn’t just physiological. David Jeremiah, founder of Turning Point for God, and Senior Pastor of Shadow Mountain Community Church says: In other words, we are taught to think negatively resulting in feeling negatively towards others. Social scientists agree that discrimination is a learned behavior impacting how we view, feel and act toward our differences. ![]() However, other psychological theories state that how we think may be associated with our upbringing. Examples include the harm to others caused by road rage, and currently mass shootings, which are reported daily. Psychologists have long proffered how we feel about someone, or something, can affect our behavior towards them. ![]() So before we jump more deeply into aligning the head it’s fair to ask which comes first, the heart or the head? This journey can cause us to experience a philosophical dilemma, commonly called the “causality dilemma.” Much of this discomfort occurs because our society encourages competition and individual accomplishment and because there is so much conflicting information, especially within the social sciences. Which came first the chicken or the egg? The past few months, within the four domains of leading like Jesus, our focus has been the heart however, perhaps the most challenging transition is aligning our heart (feelings) to our head (thoughts). ![]()
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